Consider this: In over five million years of human evolution, only one organ has come to exist for the sole purpose of providing pleasure – the clitoris. It is not required for reproduction. It doesn’t have a urethra running through it like the penis, and thus, does not urinate. Its sole function – its singular, wonderful purpose – is to make a woman feel good!!
Sadly, it is precisely because the clitoris has no function apart from female pleasure that science has neglected to study it as intricately as the penis. In my last post I wrote about Princess Marie Boneparte and her revolutionary work on the female orgasm. There was however, one piece of pertinent information she was lacking that science had not yet discovered: the true size and scope of the clitoris.
Texas Gov. Rick Perry (R) has vetoed a bill, HB 950, that would prevent wage discrimination against women. The bill that passed the Senate in April and in the House in late May, would bring Texas state law in line with the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act. Women would be able to recover two years&
This is the kinda shitbag Rick Perry is. A lot of y’all non Texan people may have not seen this.
There is a concept called body autonomy. Its generally considered a human right. Bodily autonomy means a person has control over who or what uses their body, for what, and for how long. Its why you can’t be forced to donate blood, tissue, or organs. Even if you are dead. Even if you’d save or improve 20 lives. It’s why someone can’t touch you, have sex with you, or use your body in any way without your continuous consent.
A fetus is using someone’s body parts. Therefore under bodily autonomy, it is there by permission, not by right. It needs a persons continuous consent. If they deny and withdraw their consent, the pregnant person has the right to remove them from that moment. A fetus is equal in this regard because if I need someone else’s body parts to live, they can also legally deny me their use.
By saying a fetus has a right to someone’s body parts until it’s born, despite the pregnant person’s wishes, you are doing two things.
1. Granting a fetus more rights to other people’s bodies than any born person.
2. Awarding a pregnant person less rights to their body than a corpse.
•A woman in Utah gave birth to twins. When one was stillborn, she was arrested and charged with criminal homicide based on the claim that her decision to delay cesarean surgery was the cause of the stillbirth.
•After a hearing that lasted less than a day, a court issued an order requiring a critically-ill pregnant woman in Washington, D.C. to undergo cesarean surgery over her objections. Neither she nor her baby survived.
•A judge in Ohio kept a woman imprisoned to prevent her from having an abortion.
•A woman in Oregon who did not comply with a doctor’s recommendation to have additional testing for gestational diabetes was subjected to involuntary civil commitment. During her detention, the additional testing was never performed.
•A Louisiana woman was charged with murder and spent approximately a year in jail before her counsel was able to show that what was deemed a murder of a fetus or newborn was actually a miscarriage that resulted from medication given to her by a health care provider.
•In Texas, a pregnant woman who sometimes smoked marijuana to ease nausea and boost her appetite gave birth to healthy twins. She was arrested for delivery of a controlled substance to a minor.
•A doctor in Wisconsin had concerns about a woman’s plans to have her birth attended by a midwife. As a result, a civil court order of protective custody for the woman’s fetus was obtained. The order authorized the sheriff’s department to take the woman into custody, transport her to a hospital, and subject her to involuntary testing and medical treatment.
Who could have seen this coming?
Reblogging as a reminder.
Isn’t this even more of an incentive to avoid getting pregnant?
When you read through and learn about those 0.6% who did make false allegations, there are some seriously important things to note. Firstly :
“Furthermore, the report shows that a significant number of these cases involved young, often vulnerable people. About half of the cases involved people aged 21 years old and under, and some involved people with mental health difficulties. In some cases, the person alleged to have made the false report had undoubtedly been the victim of some kind of offence (sic), even if not the one which he or she had reported.”
And then, when you get into the case studies you find things like a 14 year old girl sleeping with an 18 year old. When discovered, she claimed the sex was non-consensual in fear of her father’s disapproval, but investigation of texts and emails found that to be untrue. THAT SAID, the 18 year old was found to have a history of pursuing and seducing many very young girls, and once he was counseled he expressed not only regret over his actions, but the knowledge that he was purposefully picking vulnerable girls who could be easily manipulated into consent.
Another case was a married couple, where the wife claimed rape and domestic violence, so the husband was arrested and held. After some contact between the two while he was incarcerated, she went back to him and wanted the charges dropped. It’s okay because she still loves him. When the DA decided to keep going, she suddenly said that she made it up and he never raped her at all. Further counseling revealed that the allegations were true, but she didn’t want to be without him so she lied about the allegations being false. I don’t know about you, but this kind of sounds like classic domestic violence, and the kind of patterns you get into after living with an abuser.
The point I’m trying to make is that even though there are 0.6% false claims… when you break them down you find that there’s generally a lot of skeevy shit going on, and like the above quote, many of the alleged rape victims are actual victims of other abuses. For some of them, I’m guessing that an allegation of rape was the only way to bring enough attention to their abuse to finally get protection by law enforcement, or enough care from family to be freed from their abusive situations and moved somewhere safe. Some are mentally ill and have been taken advantage of, or are victims of statutory rape because they are not even remotely mature enough to truly consent to a sexual relationship with an adult. These cases aren’t just as simple as, “some bitch regretted sex and cried rape”.
As RH Reality Check notes, the judge’s ruling sends a promising message. The lawyers defending the law tried to argue that even if Mississippi no longer has a single abortion provider, that’s cool, because forcing someone to travel to another state doesn’t place an “undue burden” on the right to choose. The court seemed to disagree, saying that it ”would result in a patchwork system where constitutional rights are available in some states but not others.”
Only a simple majority was needed in each chamber.
The 12-week ban won’t take effect until this summer. Last week, the Legislature overrode Beebe’s veto of a ban on most abortions starting in the 20th week of pregnancy. That law took effect immediately.
Abortion rights proponents have already said they’ll sue to block the 12-week ban from taking effect. Beebe says the courts are likely to overturn both bans and that the state will waste money defending them.
This is unconscionable, unconstitutional, and completely devastating. I had terrible suspicions it was going to happen, but I really hoped it wouldn’t. This is a dark day in Arkansas.
I am grieving.
I am grieving for the women who will be lost to self-induced abortions.
I am grieving for the women who will endure grueling questions about their last menstrual cycle in order to determine they are not more than 12 weeks along.
I am grieving for the women who will be forced to carry their rapists’ children because they were too terrified to report.
I am grieving for the resulting children who will never feel wanted.
I am grieving for the doctors who will have their medical licenses revoked if they continue performing abortions after 12 weeks.
I am grieving the money taxpayers will waste on litigation that could have been spent on improving education or any number of things.
I am grieving for the loss of any new progressive residents who were planning on moving to Arkansas, because who would ever willingly come into a state where you are stripped of your rights?
I have changed my pronouns before and this is the advice I like to give people when they ask how to handle it. I get that it can be difficult, especially if you’ve known someone for years before they made this change. Here are some things to remember.
1. It ain’t about you. Yes, it’s a little uncomfortable the first few times you try to remember their pronouns (and in some cases, their current name). But YOUR discomfort about remembering something does not trump their dysphoria about being misgendered. Once you realize that it ain’t about you, it gets easier to remember. After all, this is someone you respect. So show it.
2. Ask when it’s appropriate to use their pronouns. Some people don’t use their pronouns everywhere because of safety concerns. Some people aren’t out to everyone. And some folks are fluid in relation to their pronouns. It isn’t your place to judge. If it’s okay with the person, you might consider completely dropping pronoun usage, especially in unsafe environments. Meaning, instead of s/he (or whatever else their pronoun is), just use their name. I find that makes the transition a little smoother.
3. Yes. You will need to think a second longer before you speak until it becomes second nature. In my cellphone, if someone changes their name or pronouns, I place a reminder next to their name. So for about a month is says Current Name/Previous Name (Pronoun). Example: Sally/Andrew (she). That way if I see a new number called Sally in my phone I’m not like, “Who the fuck is this?” After a while, I remember without the reminder and then I delete it. Same with screennames and such. I’ve used rhyming words to help remember things. There are lots of mental tricks to help. Do whatever you gotta do. But when you talk TO them or ABOUT them or in RELATION to them… use the correct words. I’m notoriously HORRIBLE at remembering things so I tell people upfront. “Just so you know, I will do my very best to respect you and call you by your correct name/pronouns. I might fuck up because I am forgetful but PLEASE call me on it and I’ll make sure it doesn’t continue.” Not once has anyone been anything other than appreciative because everyone likes to feel respected.
4. WHEN (not if because if you do this long enough, you WILL) you misgender someone, APOLOGIZE. Don’t make it a huge deal. Simply, “I’m sorry.” I like to use someone’s name when I apologize because it sounds more sincere and it’s a reminder for myself as well. Use the correct pronoun (or name) and move one. Making a big deal of it to look super progressive actually makes you look like an ass. And if you’re really sorry, it shouldn’t keep happening.
That’s pretty much it. And yes, you have to use their pronoun and/or name even when they aren’t around. Saying shit like, “You know Andrew, right?” when you are talking about Sally is fucked up. Something like, “You know Sally, right?” Then describe the person. And if someone else misgenders them (and it’s someone who should know better) correct them. If not, you are co-signing their disrespectful bullshit and that’s not cool.
Over and out.
A wonderful guide for cis allies on adapting to new pronouns and names. Check it out.
ABSTRACT: The sensitivity of the foreskin and its importance in erogenous sensitivity is widely debated and controversial. This is part of the actual public debate on circumcision for non-medical reason. Today some studies on the effect of circumcision on sexual function are available. However they vary widely in outcome. The present study shows in a large cohort of men, based on self-assessment, that the foreskin has erogenous sensitivity. It is shown that the foreskin is more sensitive than the uncircumcised glans mucosa, which means that after circumcision genital sensitivity is lost. In the debate on clitoral surgery the proven loss of sensitivity has been the strongest argument to change medical practice. In the present study there is strong evidence on the erogenous sensitivity of the foreskin. This knowledge hopefully can help doctors and patients in their decision on circumcision for non-medical reason.
CONCLUSIONS: This study confirms the importance of the foreskin for penile sensitivity, overall sexual satisfaction, and penile functioning. Furthermore, this study shows that a higher percentage of circumcised men experience discomfort or pain and unusual sensations as compared with the uncircumcised population. Before circumcision without medical indication, adult men, and parents considering circumcision of their sons, should be informed of the importance of the foreskin in male sexuality.
Alabama’s only openly LGBT state legislator explains why she is trying to change the laws to make sex ed in schools less homophobic and more comprehensive.
BY PATRICIA TODD
This year marks the 50th anniversary of the bombing of the 16th Street Baptist Church in Birmingham, Ala., that killed four little girls and awakened a nation. Unfortunately, in so many ways, Alabama remains stuck in the 196’s with its unspoken segregation, whispered disparagement of those in poverty, and a ferocious societal adherence to a literalist, unforgiving Bible. My state has the longest constitution in the country, with over 800 amendments that include requiring a horse in Macon County to wear a diaper in a parade. No, I am not kidding.
Our poverty rate is one of the highest in the country and we spend less money on public education than the majority of states, and it shows. The evidence is, in part, our nearly 60% dropout rate. White flight and “brain drain” from Birmingham, Alabama’s largest city, has left in its wake a segregated school system recently taken over by the state Board of Education because of mismanagement. In Alabama the entire tax base rests on a high sales tax, the most regressive form of taxation.
Alabama is the buckle of the Bible Belt, where public policy is based on religious beliefs instead of the U.S. Constitution. It is not easy to come out in Alabama or serve as its only openly gay elected official. As a legislator I am constantly bombared with “Bible babble” that seeks to defend discrimination and hatred toward our LGBT brothers and sisters. I have spent most of my six years in the legislature working on bills to reduce poverty and increase transparency in our state; in so doing I have passed legislation creating the first Alabama Housing Trust Fund and establishing the first state-funded commission to reduce poverty. I am proud to be seen as the advocate for the disenfranchised and have worked tirelessly on legislation to assure accountablity in state government and transparency in our financial transactions.
I knew when I was elected in 2006 that all eyes would be watching me and I carried the hopes and dreams of the LGBT community on my shoulders. I also knew that I needed time to develop relationships with fellow legislators to gain their trust. In 2010, when the Republicans took control, I realized that my goal to obtain equality for all had just become even more difficult. But sometimes when barriers seem most impossible to overcome, we me must not retreat but instead seize the moment as an opportunity to challenge the status quo. And so that moment has come.
In the upcoming legislative session I will introduce a bill to strike the homophobic language from our state-mandated health education curriculum. In the early 1990s the Alabama legislature passed a law mandating that when HIV education is taught in the public schools, teachers are required to teach “an emphasis, in a factual manner and from a public health perspective, that homosexuality is not a lifestyle acceptable to the general public and that homosexual conduct is a criminal offense under the laws of the state.” No, I am not kidding.
It would seem to be a simple fix for those outside the South: First, there is no scientific evidence that this statement is true, and second, the U.S. Supreme Court stuck down sodomy laws in 2003. Understandable, so strike the language! But, as we know, Alabama does not always follow the federal laws — and we are best known for refusing to follow the law. Remember Gov. George Wallace refusing to allow two black students to attend the University of Alabama? Or maybe you remember when, more recently, our Supreme Court justice Roy Moore refused to remove a stone plaque of the 10 Commandments from the Alabama Supreme Court building? That is Alabama. Interestingly, Moore was just reelected to the Alabama Supreme Court as chief justice, no less, and has spent most of his public appearances spewing hate and preaching that same-sex marriage will destroy our country.
This is what I face as a lawmaker in this state, but I keep reminding myself that my work is much like a missionary’s — you go where to work needs to be done. The legislation I am proposing in the coming session would strike that language from the public school curriculum and would actually take curriculum development out of the hands of the Alabama legislature, where it currently rests, and place it in the hands of the state Board of Education. In fact, my bill’s first hurdle will come when I ask for it to be placed on the agenda of the Education Policy Committee, chaired by the most conservative woman in the Alabama House. In fact, she informed me that she doesn’t believe sex education should be taught in the schools at all. Ignorance is bliss.
I remain convinced that this bill is a step toward good public policy in Alabama. It may not pass, but what it will do is challenge the Alabama legislature to begin the conversation around these once-taboo issues while providing an appropriate public forum where meaningful debate around the harmfulness and factual inaccuracy of such existing law can take place. Now is the time in Alabama, and now is the opportunity to shift from a course of inequality to full equality.
As you read this and shake your head in disbelief, take a minute to help me and other LGBT Alabamians move our state out of the 1960s. You can help. Equality Alabama will be leading the educational efforts, and it will take money to organize and educate the legislators to do the right thing. You can make a donation to Equality Alabama by going to EqualityAlabama.org. While today many states are fighting for marriage equality, Alabama once again finds itself far behind the curve, living in another time. But while the issue here may not marriage equality, for every LGBT Alabamian, this is our line in the sand.
I’ve mentioned before that I had a miscarriage several years ago. Emotionally, the scars lasted for years and years. My poor sister, pregnant again after two recent miscarriages, is holding her breath, hoping that this pregnancy goes all the way to term. For someone hoping for a child, a miscarriage can be a devastating thing.
So, after making it near impossible and mostly illegal for undocumented (and even documented) women to buy their own health insurance that covers abortions, after making it impossible to get free or reduced cost health insurance that covers abortions–the state of Utah feels it’s important to then criminalize women who don’t have “legal” abortions.
But…what is a “legal” abortion? Is getting advice on what herbs to take from a midwife “legal?” Is taking various medications that many Latinas can get from Mexico and other Latin American countries “legal?” Is a coat hanger “legal?”
Because there seems to be no definition of what equates “legal” written into this legislation, that means any woman anywhere who for whatever reason miscarries–will be subject to criminal charges. And lest you think that prosecutors have ever shown restraint when it comes to pressing criminal charges against women who are making their own *often times very LEGAL* choices about their bodies, please, surf around the National Advocates for Pregnant Women website for a while. This organization of lawyers that defend pregnant women from criminal prosecution, has worked to defend women who have done such things as being pregnant and addicted to various drugs to refusing c-sections to being “uppity” in the birthing room.
Unbelievable. The legislation is written so loosely that any district attorney could prosecute any woman for “reckless behavior” that results in losing a pregnancy. Drinking too much, maybe. How about not wearing a seatbelt? Or not taking pre-natal vitamins/getting pre-natal care? Where does it end? I gotta ask: when will we ever stop treating everyone else except rich, white men as second class citizens?
Young women will have greater control over their reproductive choices and will be able to visit their doctors, discuss those choices, and receive contraception without their families needing to be notified.
Safewords and safesigns are verbal or non-verbal signals that are used to communicate with partners during any kind of sexy fun time that the activity needs stop, may be too intense or that a check-in is needed. Safewords are not just for submissives or bottoms; dominants and tops need safewords too.
Play spaces can be loud, so putting a safesign in place gives you more options for communicating with the people you play with. Nonverbal signs are an imperative if someone in the scene is to be gagged or if someone in the scene is hearing impaired.
(Aside: My spouse and I have a safesign for everyday life. It’s how I let them know that it’s time to leave unending family gatherings or that I don’t feel safe in a given situation. One long, firm hand squeeze means “I’m okay.” Two quick hands squeezes mean “Time to go.” We use a similar signal for play.)
Below is my favorite set up for safewords and safesigns. I’m a fan of the stoplight system. YMMV*!
Safeword 1: Red - All activity is to stop immediately.
Safeword 2: Yellow - A check-in or adjustment is needed.
Non-verbal check-in: Two squeezes - Are you with me?
Response 1: One squeeze - A more direct check-in is needed.
Response 2: Two squeezes - Active consent to continue the scene.
If you or your partner do not have the dexterity or are not in a position to squeeze you can give the bottom something to hold. When the bottom drops the item, it is time for a direct check-in. Keys, stress balls and even bandanas can make good “drop out” items.
Negotiate safewords/signs in advance. Make sure the signals are something everyone will understand. (“Harder” is not a good safeword ;o)
Always honor the safeword/safesign agreement. Once the safeword/sign is used, consent is revoked; to continue is assault.
Don’t joke about safewords. Don’t joke that you won’t honor them, don’t jokingly use them in a scene and don’t shame a bottom out of using them.
Check-in. Check-ins don’t have to break the mood; stay connected with your partner’s emotional and physical state. “Are you with me?”
Use your safewords/signs. Using your safeword does not make you less of a bottom; it makes you a trustworthy bottom with good judgment.
If you are at a public event or play space “Safeword” can be used to signal that outside assistance is needed. It communicates to others that you have attempted to communicate a safeword/safesign to your partner and it is not being honored.
Colorado police departments are collecting hundreds of rape kits, but a CALL7 Investigation found many of those are not tested. And experts and victims tell us that is a problem because those kits may allow police to identify serial rapists by putting any DNA into a national database.
Kelly Binder says she was drugged and raped two years ago by a man she met at a bar in downtown Denver. She is upset police didn’t test her rape kit because she is concerned her attacker could still be raping other people.
“He physically restrained me,” Binder said. “And while he was raping me, I said ‘No. I don’t know you. I don’t want to do this.’”
Within hours of the assault, Binder contacted the Denver Police Department. The officer recommended she go to the hospital for a rape kit.
“You’re lying on this white sheet under these bright lights. Every intimate part, they’re taking photographs, and pulling hair out of your head,” Binder said.
She says the four-hour process felt like a second assault.
“The experience was just a nightmare,” she said.
Her rape kit was given to police. But just a few weeks later, Binder says the DPD detective assigned to her case told her it would be too hard to prove that she didn’t give consent. She says the detective told her that her rape kit would not be tested to see if her attacker had raped anyone else.
“I was raped. This man raped me. And they did nothing, they did nothing at all,” Binder said.
The CALL7 Investigators found hundreds of others rape kits remain on the shelf, untested. Since 2008, DPD has received 1,064 rape kits, but 44 percent of those kits have never been tested.
This is unacceptable and frankly disgusting. How can DPD let these assaults go without proper documentation? They are directly responsible for any recidivism in any of these assailants from here on out.